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Kidney donation recovery May 1, 2011

Filed under: The kidney donation — fabamy @ 4:37 am
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Well, it’s been 11 days since I donated my kidney to TinyMom. I am finally moving around better. For the first time in 11 days, I wore underwear yesterday. I couldn’t wear it until now, because my belly was so swollen from the incision they made to pull my kidney out. I’ve got 4 laproscopy scars on my stomach/rib area which still have the meditape on them, though one fell off finally today. Everything is itching. The scabs from the laproscopy are about the size of a dime. The incision down in my pubes is about 3 or 4 inches across. It’s like a mini c-section. It hurts a little still, but I am only taking pain pills at night for it. There are yellowish bruises around it. The stitches are dissolving, thankfully.

I went out yesterday for lunch for Yelp Office Hours. I was only out for 90 minutes, but it pretty much drained me. Because my remaining kidney is growing to compensate for losing the other one, I get tired easily. I also went to dinner with Kirti and that pretty much did me in. We went early, 5pm, and I was home early, but I was exhausted. It’s really hard for me to NOT go out and do social things, especially since I am not really driving much yet. That’s been the hardest part: not driving. I’m single, I live alone, and I’m extremely independent. Relying on others has been tough, but I am so thankful for my friends and neighbors who have been carting my ass around.

My neighbor Nancy took me to Whitfill today to get some plants for my patio and apartment. That’s about all I could do today. I napped for 2 hours this afternoon and that NEVER happens. I love naps, but I rarely sleep for more than an hour.

I have to step back and try not to push myself the next week or so and be thankful that I have the opportunity to relax.

I’ve been working everyday, which I do from home on my laptop, so that’s been pretty easy to get back into. My job is not a 9-5, M-F. I work whenever I can. I’m grateful for my job and I love what I do, so it’s easy to get back into it.

The support I’ve gotten from people is just amazing! Then again, there are some people I thought were truly my best friends that I haven’t heard from once since deciding almost 4 months ago to donate my kidney. I guess I am realizing who the really, truly genuine people are in my life and who the flakes are. Maybe some people aren’t comfortable with the subject, but no matter what, I would support my friends in something this big. It hurts that I haven’t gotten that back from some. Oh well, right?

I am still sooooooo happy with the decision I made and I am glad to be bouncing back. The pain is almost gone and I can deal with being tired by sleeping. Would I do it again? Yes, but, thankfully, I only have one kidney and can’t. Hahaha!


3 Responses to “Kidney donation recovery”

  1. You wrote: “Maybe some people aren’t comfortable with the subject, but no matter what, I would support my friends in something this big.” People deal with BIG life changes very differently, but yeah – it’s bittersweet to find yourself surrounded by those who you never knew cared so much about you while you’re reeling that those who supposedly do are no where to be found.

    What you have done is nothing short of heroic and while you are recovering, be accepting of the love and gracious offerings of time, transportation, et al and surround yourself with THAT. THAT IS HUGE!!!

    When the people you “thought were truly my best friends” inquire about the voyage, smile sweetly and refer them to this post and remember: “I would support my friends in something this big. It hurts that I haven’t gotten that back from some.” … and stay exactly the way you are, willing to support them if ever the need should arise.

    You are rare and you are Golden. ❤

    x o

  2. fabamy Says:

    Thanks, Shelly! I really appreciate all your support the past several weeks!

  3. pia Says:

    I think what you did is amazing and beyond words–I’m a friend of Shelleigh’s and will publicize this in a few days–kind of did more than my facebook quotient today!!!!!!!

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