“Since when was it such a hassle for a guy to actually ask a girl out?” This is something I hear from my single girlfriends all the time. It happens to me once in awhile, too.
If your’e interested in someone, you ask them out. It doesn’t matter if it’s for coffee, dinner, lunch, whatever. I get the guys who, the first time meeting, want to come over to watch a movie. Or invite me to their place. Um, I’m not going to your house. You’re not coming to mine unless I know you. I know what “watch a movie” means. Not falling for it.
I have gone out with some awesome guys. Just the fact that there’s some effort involved speaks volumes. I’m not asking for anything fancy – most girls aren’t, especially on a first, second or tenth date. Just some effort.
I had an amazing time just a couple weeks ago, and we just went to the Irish pub in the neighborhood and had fun for a couple hours. This is the way dating is supposed to be, until you’re actually in a relationship.
Now, I can hear some of the guys reading this, saying “But they’re just using me for a free meal.” Excuse me? A free meal? Taking time out of a busy day isn’t using you. Is it so much to ask for you to spend $30?? Do you not HAVE $30??? If not, then you’re probably not datable anyway. If you’re not willing to take someone out, spend a little bit of cash, then you’re probably not going to make it to the “watch a movie” date. Plain and simple.
So, boys, before you go complaining about how we women are only out for your cash, your $30-dinner isn’t going to make or break our daily eating. We won’t starve if you don’t take us to dinner. What it WILL do, though, is show us that you actually want to do something other than “watch a movie” and maybe even start a relationship.
Actions speak louder than words.